It is not possible to have relationships worth anything of value unless I am willing to be brave, that is, have or show mental or moral strength to face danger, fear, or difficulty: have or show courage. It is not possible because every one in the relationship is a flawed human being. This means that there will be challenges and things that we will need to confront, deal with in an honest and direct manner.
And to confront requires courage. And I have learned that courage is not a trait we are born with. It is something we develop with practice. We choose to be courageous. As Mr. Nelson Mandela stated, “I have learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” And one of the motivations for conquering fear is that we value our relationships enough to address the issues that are harmful to it. To be brave enough to have difficult conversations, is an act of loving my loved ones well. And like Joshua, I can be strong and courageous because God is with me.
This post was written for Day 19 of the 31 Days of Loving Well series. The prompt is, “Brave.” The definitions for “brave” and “confront” are from merriam-webster.com. Mr. Mandela’s quote is from brainyquote.com. To read other posts in the 31 Days of Loving Well series, please click here.