31 Days of Loving Well: Remain

Week 3 – Loving my loved ones well: Introduction

If you are joining me for the first time, this post is for Day 15 of the 31 Days of Loving Well series. The series is based on Jesus’ response to the question, “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?” Jesus said the first and greatest commandment is, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’” And He added, “The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself [that is, unselfishly seek the best or higher good for others].’” (Matthew 22:35-39, AMP). So far in the series, using the prompts provided by Kate Motaung, host of the Five Minute Friday writing community, I have focused on what it means for me to love God well and love myself well. Now, in week three, I am focusing on what it means to love my loved ones well. The prompt is “Remain.”


“Like water spilled on the ground, which cannot be recovered, so we must die. But that is not what God desires; rather, he devises ways so that a banished person does not remain banished from him.” (2 Samuel 14:14, NIV)

The verse cited above is from a chapter of the storied life of king David. It involves his sons Absalom and Amnon, his daughter Tamar, and the attempt of Joab, the trusted commander of his army, to reconcile David and Absalom. You can read the story here.

The focus of my attention is on the concept of reconciliation, of finding a way to keep a loved one in my heart, even if for safety or other concerns, or by his or her choice, that loved one cannot visit my home. For a loved one to remain in my heart, for me to continue to hold them with love and compassion, regardless of how deep the wound he or she inflicted, requires first of all that I forgive that loved one. And forgiveness requires a desire and a decision and a reaching. A desire to please God, the decision to forgive, and a reaching for God’s grace as often as I need to, until the wound is healed. And I can think of my loved one with love. Loving well is not possible without forgiveness.

The link to the Biblical story was added after 5 minutes had elapsed. To read other entries in the 31 Days of Loving Well series, click here.

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